There are three main characters in today’s parable. Two
of them show absolutely no change in their outlook
during the course of the story. The older son is
unhappy, angry, resentful, materialistic and perhaps
even greedy. He obviously is not happy that his younger
brother has returned home safely, which shows how much
he cares for his brother. He insults his father
continually by never calling him "father" as any good
Jewish son would do. He'd rather be off with his friends
than his brother or dad, and that shows how much he
cares for his family. Nothing that belongs to him has
been taken away and yet he acts as though he has been
robbed. It would be wrong to think he is the dutiful son
who stayed home to work the farm and is now justified in
his anger when his brother returns. That's not what is
going on here. We are meant to see him as one who has
little love for father or brother, and that's not
something new. It has been his attitude for a long, long
time. There is no change in the older son. He is no
better from the beginning of the story to the end. Maybe
he is even worse.
Next, we have the father. It had to have been hard on
him to discover that his younger son wanted to leave
him, not for a vacation, not for a period of time, but
presumably forever. Of course, he knew his son and how
he thought, and it is very likely that he knew the boy
would use his inheritance for partying and good times. A
sad thing for a loving father to think about, and even
more sad to think his son did not want to live with him,
and most sad, as he waved good-bye from the front of the
family home, to wonder if he would ever see his boy
again.
We are certainly meant to see him as kind, generous and
very loving father. Notice there is not one word of
recrimination when his son returns home. He doesn't ask
how the boy lived, he doesn't ask for apologies or for
anything else. He is simply glad he is home safe and
sound and whatever the boy may have done is left behind
in the father's joy at his return. The love he shows
this son is the same love he shows his other son as he
goes out to try and beg him to change his attitude. And
what does he want for the older son? He wants him to be
happy! He wants him to be glad in his family, and
despite the abuse this son hands to him right to his
face, the father still begs him to find a way to
celebrate with his family. The father never changes from
beginning to end. But unlike the older son, his steady
character is not marked by sin and selfishness, but
rather by his enduring love for his sons. He has always
loved them this way, and despite the faults and failings
of both sons he loves them still. No change here. The
Father is always loving, and always loving the same.
And then there is the youngest son who, just like his
brother, doesn’t care about family, and went out into
the world not to seek his fortune, but to spend his
share of his father's fortune. We don't know exactly
whether he spent his money on prostitutes, gambling or
cocaine. That’s what his brother says. But he went
through that money rather quickly and from being a
good-time Goliath, he rapidly fell into the role of down
and dirty Daniel. Starving and slopping those un-kosher
pigs, he was in misery, and this condition, this
situation, this radical change in his life gave him a
clear mind to see the truth of what kind of person he
was. Packing with the porkers was not just proof of
material poverty. It allowed him to see the proof of his
spiritual poverty. Now he saw clearly. He was so
miserable that he had to do something, and with this new
clarity of who he was as a person, the truth about
himself in the plain light of day he was forced to do
something. He could have turned to evil and crime, but
he chooses to live for what is better. His father's love
is like grace, calling him back to a better life, and
that is what he chooses. What a changed man he is as he
begs his dad's forgiveness, telling him the only thing
he desires or needs is to be close again to his dad. The
prodigal son is the only character who changes in the
parable and it is a change from sin to virtue, from
fleeting, false pleasure to enduring peace and loving
contentment.
So then: we are not bad to the bone like son #1, nor are
we like the absolute loving father, but somewhere in
between, more like the Prodigal. One of the reasons the
Church offers us the season of Great Lent is so that by
changing our condition in life a bit, through extra
prayer, fasting, almsgiving, and paying more attention
to our spiritual life in a different way than the rest
of the year, we set up the conditions to see ourselves
more as we are, and to see our lives with greater
clarity and honesty. Without having to be starving,
without having to feed pigs we can change our own
condition through a Lenten-lifestyle to better see where
we are in life and how we are doing with life. And if we
see it is not where we want to be then we can make a
decision for something better. We can ask our Father for
pardon and accept whatever work we may need to do so we
can lift up our heads not in shame or disgrace but lift
up our heads in peace and God's grace.
Now, different than the Prodigal son, we are not forced
to consider the status of our life or the state of our
soul by external forces we cannot control. We are not
forced into harsh conditions that will reveal the truth
about ourselves.
Instead, we are invited to create our own change in
conditions through the Lenten-lifestyle so that we can
choose to make those changes which will bring us closer
to our heavenly Father and bring greater love to this
world, even as we accept more eagerly and more wisely
our Father's love for us. The Church invites us for
seven weeks to change or alter our condition on the
outside, so that we can see more clearly what is going
on inside. Then, with a better understanding of who we
are and how we are, then we can better choose which
direction we want to go. It's an invitation to the pig
sty, so to speak, to see if we are wallowing in things
that are harmful to us, and to give us perspective to
better see what our Father is offering to us. We are not
forced; we are not forced to go there. We are not forced
to change but by choosing to change our daily lifestyle
for a small amount of time it can help to change our
life for eternity. If we truly believe we are living the
best our life can offer to us, then I guess there is no
need for a Lenten lifestyle. But if we believe there is
more to life in Christ than we have right now, then let
us consider changing some external situation this Lent
so we can examine ourselves and move to be living more
freely and living more graciously. Christ Himself will
show us the way home to the Father. That’s where our
inheritance will be found.