I watched a video of the ordination of the Ruthenian
Catholic bishop of Passaic, New Jersey, which took place
about 10 years ago; and as is our custom, there is lot
of episcopal hand-kissing. As you have seen here,
whenever the servers or the deacons or the priests give
an object to the bishop, or take it from him, they kiss
his hand. When the priests receive Holy Communion from
the bishop, they kiss his hand. And the reason for all
this hand kissing is because the bishop, in his office,
represents the Good Shepherd, Christ Himself, and so
when we kiss the bishop's hand it is not to honor the
bishop as man, but rather as a kind of icon of Christ,
or a representative of the Lord Himself. So even if the
bishop is a jerk, you can still feel good about kissing
his hand.
I noticed in the video, however, that the Latin rite
priests present at that ordination did not kiss the
bishop's hand. And I seem to recall when I was a kid
that on TV or in movies, Latin rite Catholic priests
(and laypeople too) would kiss the bishop's ring, but
apparently that doesn't happen much anymore. I recall
also that when someone was greeting the pope, they also
would also kiss his ring, but in modern times that also
rarely ever happens. Of course, there is nothing
theologically necessary here. It is just a most ancient
custom, and I think a very good one. When you go to kiss
the bishop's hand you must bow your head to do it. There
are no Greek Catholic "high fives," you must bend your
neck to kiss his hand. If you love and admire your
bishop, then it is an easy thing to do. If you are not
fond of your bishop, it may be harder to do, but in
either case the respect and honor shown is not paid to
the man himself, but to Christ, just as when we kiss an
icon or a cross.
So why is there so little episcopal hand kissing or ring
kissing in the modern western world, even for the pope
of Rome? The bowing and the kiss are not the signs of
equal partners. No, they are the signs of one who is low
in rank showing honor to one who is greater in rank. And
I think that is why in many places this custom has died
out, because it rubs the modern western person the wrong
way to even think that there is someone perhaps more
worthy of respect than I am (unless, of course, they are
in the entertainment or sports world, or perhaps the
White House.) Many modern western people feel that
showing respect for those in higher office or position
somehow takes away from their own dignity or importance,
so these acts of respect have continued to fall by the
wayside as time goes on. No longer, "His Honor, the
Mayor." Now it's just, "Fred." And I think when such
false notions of "equality" enter into the Church, they
cause us harm, because if we are not able to bow to
those who serve us as pope, patriarch and bishop, I
think it reveals that we have such an exaggerated sense
of self-importance, that I wonder how much we truly and
genuinely bow our heads to Christ our God.
And even to those who are not our superiors, even to one
another as brothers and sisters in Christ, if we cannot
bow to one another then I think we have a real
deficiency in our love for God. His great commandments
are that we 1) love Him above all else, and 2) love our
neighbor as our self. It's not a pick (A) or (B)
situation. If I cannot bow to my neighbor, then it is
highly unlikely that I truly bow to God. That is true
even if my neighbor lives with me at home.
In the Liturgy, the priest and people bow to each other
many times during the service, because although I am
priest and you are lay people, in the service of the
Liturgy we act as one body, the Body of Christ. How many
times do we bow to each other during the Liturgy? I
don't know but it's a lot. And so we bow to the Holy
Gospel, the icons, as we come up to the Chalice of the
Holy Eucharist. The tetrapod here in front is not a tall
stand, but a table where you must bow to kiss the icon.
Sad for us if we ever think that such bowing is
undignified or if we find it difficult to do, because it
is a gesture of our loving dependence on the grace of
God, and it is a loving gesture where we also
acknowledge our proper place in the Body of Christ.
In our modern culture which teaches and encourages
people to put themselves first above all others, even in
marriage and family life, it should come as no surprise
that if I cannot bow to my spouse or my parents that I
also will not bow to Christ. This ego-centered attitude
is by now, deeply, deeply imbedded in our society. I
must be first. Pay attention to me. I am more important
that all of you. Therefore, if I am first, above all
others, how is it even possible for me to sin? And then,
why would there be any need for repentance? We imitate
the Pharisee.
Two different postures are shown in today's gospel. The
Publican prayed with his head bowed, and it implies that
the Pharisee did not, of course, feel any need to bow
his head at all as he spoke to his audience in the
temple. Their postures reveal their attitudes. The
Pharisee standing tall and gazing about, notices the
alleged sinner in his midst, and can only comment on his
own righteousness and the deplorable behaviors of those
around him. He has no need for God. He did it all by
himself. But with head bowed, the Publican can only see
his own self and he begs the mercy of God; his prayer is
authentic and true. And so my friends, let even our
posture, our bowing of our heads today, lead us into
becoming more authentic and true followers of Christ, as
we respect and honor one another. And, above all, as the
Liturgy teaches us, come and let us worship and bow
before Christ.